Vairelome wrote: *My* society does not "keep women in subordinate roles," nor is it fixated on physical strength differentials.
Rusalka wrote: Vairelome wrote: *My* society does not "keep women in subordinate roles," nor is it fixated on physical strength differentials. I take it you're not a representative example, then? Also, does your society publish any superhero comics? I'd be interested in reading those.
bcas76 wrote: The problem is we can't even have a discussion about these issues honestly and without defensiveness.
Ralstonator wrote: bcas76 wrote: Ralstonator wrote: Is original poster sure they know what misogyny means? I just ask because it's a little odd that they somehow took a comment that is vaguely sexist, and most likely not even intentionally, at the very worst and made the huge leap into it meaning that the game devs flat out hate the entire female gender, which is what misogyny actually means. You can argue that they're allegedly sexist and ignorant all day if you like, but to accuse them of misogyny over this is some pretty serious overreacting. Thank you for making my point. I'm sorry that you feel the need to imply that my pointing out that misogyny and sexism aren't the same thing is somehow some kind of an endorsement or acceptance of either or both, just to help illustrate your own earlier point. I'll pretend that it still sounded clever though, if you really need the validation that badly. Don't spend too much time on your scathing follow-up either, as I am officially now going to run away screaming from this thread and never look back, as I should have done in the first place.
bcas76 wrote: Ralstonator wrote: Is original poster sure they know what misogyny means? I just ask because it's a little odd that they somehow took a comment that is vaguely sexist, and most likely not even intentionally, at the very worst and made the huge leap into it meaning that the game devs flat out hate the entire female gender, which is what misogyny actually means. You can argue that they're allegedly sexist and ignorant all day if you like, but to accuse them of misogyny over this is some pretty serious overreacting. Thank you for making my point.
Ralstonator wrote: Is original poster sure they know what misogyny means? I just ask because it's a little odd that they somehow took a comment that is vaguely sexist, and most likely not even intentionally, at the very worst and made the huge leap into it meaning that the game devs flat out hate the entire female gender, which is what misogyny actually means. You can argue that they're allegedly sexist and ignorant all day if you like, but to accuse them of misogyny over this is some pretty serious overreacting.
Vairelome wrote: Since you've decided to move from snarky condescension and bad-faith posturing to direct insults, I believe I am done with this conversation.
soursenseless wrote: For those of you who feel like this is an overreaction or question what this has to do with misogyny I just ask that you take some time to think about how exactly referring to men or boys as "girls" is an insult. Why is it that so many of the worst insults for men involve likening them to women? To me this indicates that our society does not value women as much as men, which seems pretty misogynistic to me.
EternalLurker wrote: This thread is absurd and I'm really getting sick of seeing it on the front page.
EternalLurker wrote: Except I got sick of it enough to actually take the time and explain why the thread was stupid, and it looks like people have finally given up. Though all the -rep on my earlier posts is highly amusing.
EternalLurker wrote: Natasha's sarcastic and cold when she want to be, which is almost all the time against opponents in order to anger them and make them more predictable. She'll insult people with whatever hurts them, regardless of whether or not she would consider it hurtful were it directed at her. She doesn't have to consider "lady" to be an insult in order to use it as one against someone who'd be pissed about it.
Thugpatrol wrote: Not even remotely touching anything else in this thread, but I think this is quite to the point about the original complaint. Black Widow is a master of mental manipulation, and if she thought that being called girls or ladies or fluffy bunnies would rattle a bunch of paramilitary tough guys enough to give her an edge, you can bet that's what she'd do. Whether or not that's what the writer was thinking when he/she/it wrote that line is really anyone's guess. We all view the world through a lens colored by our own experiences and it can cause bias. Some people are more aware of this fact than others, and some people react very emotionally to that bias. Text is particularly susceptible to this, because there's nothing else to base your reaction on other than the worlds alone. No body language or tone of voice. So while some people may be inclined to read some other deeper meaning or agenda into the original line in question, there really isn't anything innately sexist or misogynistic about it. It's just Black Widow messing with a bunch of mooks.
eris-wtga wrote: Thugpatrol wrote: Black Widow is a master of mental manipulation, and if she thought that being called girls or ladies or fluffy bunnies would rattle a bunch of paramilitary tough guys enough to give her an edge, you can bet that's what she'd do. Whether or not that's what the writer was thinking when he/she/it wrote that line is really anyone's guess. While some people may be inclined to read some other deeper meaning or agenda into the original line in question, there really isn't anything innately sexist or misogynistic about it. It's just Black Widow messing with a bunch of mooks. Oh there it is very much innately sexist to calling a male a female for derogatory purposes. And yes the lens on which we see the world effects the way we view it, woman who are constantly being treated as something less then male get pissed off when we see things that perpetuate that idea. You don't hear women go around to other woman saying "don't be such a guy". The context doesn't matter, the fact that calling a male a female as an insult is at its core sexist.
Thugpatrol wrote: Black Widow is a master of mental manipulation, and if she thought that being called girls or ladies or fluffy bunnies would rattle a bunch of paramilitary tough guys enough to give her an edge, you can bet that's what she'd do. Whether or not that's what the writer was thinking when he/she/it wrote that line is really anyone's guess. While some people may be inclined to read some other deeper meaning or agenda into the original line in question, there really isn't anything innately sexist or misogynistic about it. It's just Black Widow messing with a bunch of mooks.
Black Widow is a realist, not an feminist idealist. She lives in a world of results, and if calling some macho dude a girl is going to rattle him and give her an edge she's going to do it. That's all I was saying.
soursenseless wrote: Black Widow is a realist, not an feminist idealist. She lives in a world of results, and if calling some macho dude a girl is going to rattle him and give her an edge she's going to do it. That's all I was saying. Would the Disney-owned character of Black Widow also use racial slurs in a match three puzzle game if it meant surprising a dangerous villain? Come on.
Thugpatrol wrote: Context always matters, and you seem to be confusing the context of my argument and the original post to which I was responding. Who are you calling sexist in this equation? The game, and by extension the writer, for having this line in it? Are you calling the character of Black Widow sexist? If your argument is that in the most general sense calling a man by a feminine term to insult him is sexist, then yes. Of course. But that's not what this conversation was originally about. I was defending the line as being in character, and by extension the writer and the game as not being sexist because of the context in which it appears. Black Widow is a realist, not an feminist idealist. She lives in a world of results, and if calling some macho dude a girl is going to rattle him and give her an edge she's going to do it. That's all I was saying.
Zifna wrote: Expalphalog wrote: When you insult people, don't you specifically look for a word that would be hurtful to them? You look for an insult that will hurt, but also something you find insulting. As an example, an atheist might be insulted by someone comparing them to a religious person, but you're almost never going to hear a religious person accuse an atheist person of being faithful as if they think faith is a bad thing. Likewise, you're not going to hear an atheist scathingly insult a religious person for their lack of faith and their desire to see proof for everything. (Note: I am not suggesting that faith and rationality are opposed. I don't believe this - I'm just saying that a champion of faith won't insult someone for having faith and someone who believes in the primacy of rationality won't insult someone for demanding proof.) Having Black Widow insult someone by calling them female suggest that she views femininity as being typically weak. You could say she's just too meta and ruthless to care that she's insulting herself too, but there are many other options that would have served her better. Pretending otherwise is just trying to justify a poor decision. She's smarter than that. The writers failed her - and us - on this one.
Expalphalog wrote: When you insult people, don't you specifically look for a word that would be hurtful to them?